Tuesday, November 15, 2016

In the Moment and in Retrospect

Lilith Attack was upset this past week. The orange bigoted anti-woman, racist homophobe headed for the white house won the electoral vote. Is it messed up that Hilary Clinton may have nearly 3M more of the popular vote than Trump? In Canada, we too have a system where my "urban" vote is worth less than a rural vote. That aside, my partner is absolutely correct: We can't be sad unless we've fought like hell (and at least, if American, voted, for fuck sake! *look at the USA voter turnout (58 percent!), how many assumed Hilary would win?!) and unless you've done all you can. So here, on our home front, we are in a beautiful position right now. We have an Alberta NDP government lead by an incredible woman. Canada just saw the first transgendered judge sworn in recently in Winnipeg. In Alberta, Bill 6, WCB Coverage for farm workers. Gay-straight alliances in our schools with Bill 10. We fought hard for this. We must continue to fight. We must be able to tell our son in 10 years when he's a teenager and asks what we did - that we did everything we could. That we fought to keep this. A Provincial NDP government and a liberal federal leader, both fighting for change. (But often not hard enough) But. And so - We must hold them accountable. We must hold our media accountable. We must pay attention. So much progression under Obama. And now so much lost. Let us not be idle in Alberta. We cannot let go of our own progression. We are better than that.

Monday, April 8, 2013

The One and Done Club

My friend recently started a blog, oneanddone.ca; a rumination about having one child. Many of her thoughts are also my thoughts and since we decided ("at this time") to also only have one, I've been thinking incessantly about this change of mind and what it will mean for our family. And when friends ask "why" I find myself scrambling to somehow justify this "lesser" family style. Why is it something that needs to be justified? What makes it less noble, somehow, than having multiple? The less-than-understanding nods of "oh yeah..." when I try to explain it to a stranger, and the, "you'll see," sighs from moms of multiples... So this weekend after reading some very compelling articles, one interesting fact is dominating my obsession with understanding this in context of what seems to me to be a cultural no-no (despite the rise of single child families). Lauren Sandler writes in the Times:

"The image of the lonely only — or at least the legitimizing of that idea — was the work of one man, Granville Stanley Hall. About 120 years ago, Hall established one of the first American psychology-research labs and was a leader of the child-study movement. A national network of study groups called Hall Clubs existed to spread his teachings. But what he is most known for today is supervising the 1896 study "Of Peculiar and Exceptional Children," which described a series of only-child oddballs as permanent misfits. Hall — and every other fledgling psychologist — knew close to nothing about credible research practices. Yet for decades, academics and advice columnists alike disseminated his conclusion that an only child could not be expected to go through life with the same capacity for adjustment that children with siblings possessed. "Being an only child is a disease in itself," he claimed." Via
Holy shit! What?! All this futile explanation and my own questioning that it's the right choice for our family and all because of one man who claimed that being an only child is a disease in itself!? A little more reading and I find that not only did he believe in separating boys and girls for learning (i.e. training for motherhood and household leaders), but "h[]e predicted that the American emphasis on individual human right and dignity would lead to a fall that he analogized to the sinking of Atlantis" and that:
Hall argued that child development recapitulates his highly racialized conception of the history of human evolutionary development. He characterized pre-adolescent children as savages and therefore rationalized that reasoning was a waste of time with children. He believed that children must simply be led to fear God, love country and develop a strong body. As the child burns out the vestiges of evil in his nature, he needs a good dose of authoritarian discipline, including corporal punishment.[3] He believed that adolescents were characterized by more altruistic natures and that high schools should indoctrinate students into selfless ideals of service, patriotism, body culture, military discipline, love of authority, awe of nature and devotion to the state and well being of others.[7] Hall consistently argued against intellectual attainment at all levels of public education. Open discussion and critical opinions were not to be tolerated. Students needed indoctrination to save them from the individualism that was so damaging to the progress of American culture.
Via I'm shocked and amazed by this and need to spend some time processing that his ideas about single-child families have maintained their grip to our collective thought and captured the pure imagination of us all. Because these ideas about only-children are truly that. Imagination from Bad Science.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Back to Lilith Attack

I was shocked to see it's been a year since my last post. I have made some career changes to a more positive environment with wonderful, supportive, funny women but along with that change came a return to a work environment not-so conducive to blogging. Also, on a personal note, although rarely (if ever) discussed, my diagnosed "unexplained infertility" came to an end after 4 difficulat years when I sought out Chinese Medicine. After just over three months of Herbs, I was pregnant and a baby is on the way in March! I hope to resurrect Lilith Attack posts and get back on the blog while on my year-long maternity leave! I have missed Lilith Attack and missed the community, but have come out of a place of spiralling discouragement with bright, dry eyes and a whole lotta love and hope and wonder. Peace and Love to my kindred feminist spirits.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Remembering Marsha Ellen Meidow

I am sad to post that Marsha Ellen Meidow, 34, of Calgary has died. This is the email I received from her family this morning:

It is with great sorrow we must inform you Marsha Ellen Meidow has slipped away and begun another journey. Her spirit shall continue to dance, our memories of her will make us smile and her light will shine within each of us.

Join us in celebrating the Life of the Legendary Marsha Ellen Meidow.
We know that Marsha has touched the lives of so many. Everyone is welcome to attend this event. Please know that she passed peacefully without pain, surrounded by her family and love ones.

This event will begin at 4:00PM on Sunday, January 10th at The Republik - 219 17th Avenue SW (The new location for the Republik). There will be testimonials, readings, dancers, songwriters and bands. The line up of artists will be posted soon.
It will be Potluck. Comfort food of all kinds is welcome. Be it vegan, alberta beef or organic, we would greatly appreciate any and all contributions to feed the masses. Plates, napkins and cutlery will be provided.
There will be a Guest Book - Please be sure to write a special message to Tank and Marsha's family in the Guest Book provided. Share your memories and loving thoughts.
There will be a Photo Album - Please print off and bring in any/all photos you may have of Marsha as we would like Tank and the Family to take home a Photo Album compiled by Marsha's friends. Scrapbook supplies will be provided, feel free to bring your own.

CALLING ALL ARTISTS!! We are seeking Silent Auction Items. In order to offset the funeral expenses we would greatly appreciate any/all contributions of artwork or any suitable creative works. (Please bring an easel or small display table to display your work. Some easles may be provided). If you wish to contribute please contact Charity (ASAP) at 403-613-1383.

Our love and support goes out to Marsha's family and to Tank Standing Buffalo.
I am sorry to have to send you this message, and you will attend Sunday.

xo Marsha's family and friends.

May Marsha: beautiful ardent feminist, activist and passionate woman rest in peace.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009


Damn right, it's better than your's! Eco-Friendly wind up vibrator!
Check out the Earth Angel...

Friday, December 18, 2009

Hero Squad

Attention! Smell your Dildoes! Kim and Amy Sedgwick are campaigning against bisphenol A's insertion in sex toys in Canada. If you won't drink out of the ol' Nalgene bottle because of the toxins and health risks associated with Bisphenol A, do you really want to stick one up your beautiful, soft and absorptive cunt for a nice long vaginal massage? OPI and other nail polish companies have removed phthalates from their darling polishes because we hollered! If our bone nails are enough to absorb nasty chemicals, we MUST avoid getting boned by sex toy manufacturers that continue penetrating their products with toxins - because, simply enough, they can get away with it - because sex toys are a "novelty item." There are alternatives to cheap plastic toys and it's worth spending a little extra coin to have safe sex! In Calgary, you can find them at the lovely boutique, "A Little More Interesting" off the busy intersection of 17th Avenue & 14th Street SW.

Monday, September 14, 2009


HACC kicks off its annual campaign with the launch of Homeless Awareness Week the third week in September. The week is filled with events designed to educate Calgarians about the realities surrounding homelessness in our city organized by HACC, other non-profit groups, government agencies and community members.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Event Notice

Friday, August 21, 2009

What the Douche?

Compliments of a friend's email forward, here is a horrifying product from the 50s-60s, "Vagasan", a powder (what!?) douching product (via Madame Talbot) with these lovely ingredients:

Carbolic Acid 1/8 of 1% in mixed usable solution (Phenol, also known as carbolic acid, is a toxic, white crystalline solid with a sweet tarry odor, commonly referred to as a "hospital smell". During the 1880s Diphtheria was treated by Phenol Douches.)

Boric Acid A boric acid douche used to be the most commonly recommended means of addressing vaginal yeast.

Alum (think of pickeling alum)

Methyl Salicylate is a wintergreen-scented chemical found in many over-the-counter products, including muscle ache creams.

and Oil of Peppermint

Oh my godde. Acid and Pickling do not create word associations for vagina!! More on douching.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Tough Guise

Check out this film review of "Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity" by Tatiana Tomljanovic of Calgary's Alliance to End Violence.

Monday, July 27, 2009

Not quite Two Years

Hey I remember this guy... he didn't complete ANY therapy and didn't rehabilitate after serving four years in prison for "terroriz[ing] women in 2003 by breaking into their Forest Lawn homes and attacking them. While under 24-hour house arrest for two previous sex attacks, he raped a 17-year-old girl at knifepoint in the middle of the night when she was home alone."

Sex offender arrested for peeping.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Catalogue of the Catalogued

This is a great site featuring books found in existing libraries that shouldn't be. Upon first finding this site via metafilter, this is my favourite book so far: Moving through Pregnancy. Be sure to click the vacuum photo and view the description of Judith's tedious workout (but great posture!)!

There's also this book and this book and this book and this book and so many more!

Friday, June 26, 2009

Bank of Glass Ceiling er America

Attorney at Law reports:

Bank of America, which acquired the former Merrill Lynch and Co. last year, discriminated against female brokers by offering them lower retention benefits than their male colleagues and steering wealthier investors to brokers who were men, according to a newly filed lawsuit.

The suit was filed today on behalf of Jaime Goodman, a Merrill broker since 1992 who joined Bank of America when the bank acquired Merrill on January 1, 2009. Goodman claims her new bosses demonstrated gender bias against her and other female employees.

She is seeking class-action status for her suit, which if granted would allow other women who claim they were similarly harmed by Bank of America’s allegedly discriminatory practices to join in the litigation.

Info Source: Calgary Herald

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Viva Vintage Monologues

A Theatre Project for those who experience life over 60:
A staged reading of monologues, scense and stories that speak to the experience of sexuality after 60. Funny, fun, heartbreaking and real!

On tour through Calgary's libraries this summer!
Brought to you by Seniors a GOGO